Jenny Haddle

Jenny Haddle

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Assistant Trainer

KMind Day 3 - Breath

  • Nov 8th, 2018 at 12:28PM

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I am reading today's lesson...not finished yet, but I was struck by this sentence, " You could honestly stop this course right now and come away a better person simply by learning breath awareness." From my experience, this is 100% true. Let me tell you why.

My very normal 3 year old pitches some horrific, dramatic fits over the smallest, most inconsequential details of life. But, that's 3...everything seems new and important to her and totally worth screaming about if it doesn't go her way. I get it. Guess what has been the MOST effective way of calming her down? BREATH. I started it with pretending to blow up balloons with her. Then, moved on to just talking her through a few deep breaths. It's like magic. "Remember what we talked about? Breathe." We take a deep breath together. "Good. Breathe." Another deep breath. "Okay. One more." Last deep breath together. Fit over. We talk about it. I feel like the best parent on the face of the Earth for the next half our until something else sets her into a panic.....

 
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Kate S.Kate S.Kenzai Sculpt | Graduating (Member)
7 months ago

Hi Jenny, I so love this and thank you. I just got back from a trip with my also very normal 2 year old and we were catapulted into a world of tantrums that I have never experienced with her. All just new ness and lack of routine, big bad world, pushing boundaries etc etc, but so testing. Not all of my responses to this were my most amazing parenting moments, but hey, that is life and I can only strive to improve on those reactions. I will definitely try this with my girl too, not sure whether 2 is too young, but let's try! If anything it will calm me down which is half of the battle!


    Jerry R.Jerry R.Kenzai Member
    7 months ago

    Great story, Jenny! I work with young children and can attest to this technique of settling a child. We do breathing lessons regularly so they are quite practiced when it comes to times they need to use this technique.


      Janet L.Janet L.Kenzai Member
      7 months ago

      Wow - I wish I had known that trick 25 years ago....one of my sons was quite challenging... It makes sense as we ourselves know that when you are upset the best thing to do is breathe deeply.


        Sara PittmanSara PittmanKenzai Chisel | Day 7 (Member)
        Assistant Trainer7 months ago

        I actually use this with my almost 16 year old ! (Sorry but the parenting never ends!) - I try to look him directly in the eyes and tell him to take some deep breaths, talk to me again in a calm and quiet manner and then I will listen ( or start shouting depending on how that goes !)
        Great tip from the Kenzai koffers


          Sum D.Sum D.Kenzai Blast: Beach Ready | Day 1 (Member)
          7 months ago

          Wonderful parenting! Might try this with myself when I have a tantrum next 😂


            Amanda EllistonAmanda EllistonKenzai Reach | Day 35 (Member)
            Assistant Trainer7 months ago

            Good reminder for good parenting and self care.


              Yvonne T.Yvonne T.Kenzai Member
              7 months ago

              Wonderful example of mindful parenting! Well done, Jenny!


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