Jenny Haddle

Jenny Haddle

Kenzai Member
Assistant Trainer

Mind Day 25 - This and that

  • Nov 29th, 2018 at 11:15AM

Hello team! Busy, eventful couple of weeks. I've been meditating daily, exercising many days and eating a pretty healthy relaxed diet. Despite no blog, I've been on the site everyday, reading blogs and following what all the Mind trainees are up to and feeling about the meditation. Mixed bag out there!

The last two weeks, I've been alone with the kids in the evenings, early mornings and Sundays, which is why exercising only happens some days. I've made sure meditation happens everyday, though. Being alone with the kids is not difficult, but it requires 100% attention. I cannot email, answer WhatsApp messages, read a book, exercise, meditate...none of it. They require full attention and after some mentally tough days at work, it is a challenge to be fully alert and kind. Plus, I still have to cook dinner and wash dishes and all the other little tasks required before bedtime. Always on. How do single parents in the US keep their sanity? At least, I've got a nanny who lives on the property, a housekeeper who comes daily...that takes care of all the other housekeeping stuff so that I'm not stressed by a messy house, laundry piling up, etc. Much to be grateful for.

Anyway, my partner should come home next week, and life will resume a normal, slightly more rested pace. Happy meditating out there team.

PS Today's lesson made me laugh. "If you can hang tough in a 15 minute meditation, you'll find a 10 minute line at the post office to be no problem at all." Lines in Africa remind me of Black Friday year round. And, the even more frustrating part about lines in Africa, people don't respect them! ARGH! So, some days I stand in line and laugh at my thought chains, other days I let loose on these jerks who step in front of me without even asking permission.

A quick story. A month or so back I stood in line for 2 hours to get my driver's license printed (after a month of other processes!)....the people printing the licenses would come and go, laugh, not pay attention to the customers. I finally got to the front of the line and get this, those people who had paid extra money (aka bribes) to not stand in line were getting their licenses printed. A stack of papers being processed, while I stood there for 20 minutes and watched with aching feet. I thought to myself, this is Africa. I could get angry and yell and pitch a fit. You know what the people around me would do? Stare at me as if I'd lost my mind and probably smile or possibly laugh. Seriously. I remained calm through it all. Thank you meditation.

 
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Janet L.Janet L.Kenzai Member
7 months ago

No doubt about it, single parenting is challenging. Like you, I had lots of support (it is available in the US for a price...), but from Friday evening until Monday morning I was on call 24 hours. You do an amazing job - even to fit in the meditation. I actually started going to church every Sunday when my boys were 2 and I was single parenting so I could have two hours of peace, as they were checked into the church's childcare. Hope the meditation provides an island of calm for you.


    Greg V.Greg V.Kenzai Member
    7 months ago

    interesting blog post. parenting is no joke. kids require a lot of attention! i dont think i could handle what you describe in Africa, but apparently its quite different in each country across the continent


      Sandhya KrishnanSandhya KrishnanKenzai Member
      Assistant Trainer7 months ago

      Wow that's a lot you've got on your plate Jenny! We have a problem with lines too, here in India. I'm slowing learning to be assertive without feeling outraged internally. One day at a time!


        Kathleen C.Kathleen C.Kenzai Member
        7 months ago

        It is interesting how much we internalize what we expect a line to be. Breaking queue rules in Canada is very rare indeed. Instead we mutter about the person with 13 items in a max 12 item line. :-). It sounds like life in Africa is a mixed blessing. Much like life everywhere. Finding your assertive balance must be hard at times.


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