Kim Benson

Kim Benson

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Perspective

  • Apr 28th, 2016 at 7:16AM

It's an interesting thing, perspective. We can lose sight of it rather easily. Sometimes it takes a literal shift in location or company to help you gain some back. Living where we do in Colorado, there are a ton of super fit people around. I don't mean just in shape people, but athletes come here from all over the world to train due to the temperate weather and the benefits of training at higher altitudes. The general lifestyle in my area lends itself nicely to those who love being outdoors and active. Hence, loads of super fit people. So looking around at the other moms at my daughter's gymnastic class I'm nothing special. Sure I'm in yoga pants and a tank top too but I don't have the nicest arms, or great, trim shapely legs and bum. If I'm honest, I'm one of the larger women there. Now, transport me to upstate NY for my Grandma's funeral. My sister exclaimed that I had lost "way too much weight" and look emaciated (she's prone to exaggeration). My Uncle picked me up, shook me a little and said "I would never have even recognized you, you're ity bity." My aunts kept commenting on how I was only eating fruit and drinking coffee while everyone else had doughnuts, bagels, and juice "well it's no wonder she's so very thin." So I got emaciated, ity bity and very thin, over the course of 3 hours. I know these are 2 extremes and neither are very accurate. Still it gave me pause. How can I feel so very differently about my body just based on the people I'm around? Not gonna lie, going to NY was a confidence booster. Given my genetics and body type, I will never be one of those super trim moms at gymnastics class. I'm beginning to understand my body more and more and appreciate it's strengths and weaknesses (scoop push ups.) My body is changing. It is strong, fit and healthy and that is something to be proud of. Perspective regained...for now

 
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Malia HirschmannMalia HirschmannKenzai Member
Traineralmost 5 years ago

Oh how do I love this post! "So I got emaciated, ity bity and very thin, over the course of 3 hours" is a perfect way to describe that EVERYTHING is a matter of perspective. One of the most powerful changes a person can make in Kenzai (and life!) is to change their perspective about themselves. What a great antidote to the tunnel vision we all might be experiencing late in a program.


    Brian S.Brian S.Kenzai Member
    almost 5 years ago

    Great post. During KB1 I got lots of compliments and the changes really stood out, but now that I've been in good shape for 1.5 yrs, those around me don't notice any changes or comment on my fitness. However, when I see people I haven't seen in a while I get the same comments you get -- "what happened?" "You are too skinny!" The point of the post I liked best is where you highlight that you appreciate your body more now which is terrific.


      Yvonne R.Yvonne R.Alumni
      almost 5 years ago

      Awesome post Kim, thank you! I'm like you - not a weeny lady and have been this size and height since I was 14.5 yo ... how wonderful to be happy in our skin and proud that its taken a mountain of determination and hard work to get here :-) xox


        Gary R.Gary R.Alumni
        almost 5 years ago

        As Malia said this is a great antidote for those with some tunnel vision happening i.e. me!! Thanks for the post Kim :-)


          Fiona C.Fiona C.Alumni
          almost 5 years ago

          Love your post!


            Rob S.Rob S.Alumni
            almost 5 years ago

            Very cool post - thanks Kim. A great way to start thinking when we get to narrow a focus.


              George B.George B.Kenzai Member
              almost 5 years ago

              It's the Colorado is amazing for athletes. And when it comes to triathlete that train 4 times a day it's going to be hard to match up. I guess you must be breaking new limits with the family. Getting their perspective is healthy.


                Matt BerlinMatt BerlinKenzai Member
                Traineralmost 5 years ago

                You’re rocking a fit body and a healthy perspective. Nothing good be better! Don’t let the outsiders derail that rightful pride.


                  Ed CenterEd CenterKenzai Member
                  Assistant Traineralmost 5 years ago

                  I wonder if those little distance runners have biased your perspective a bit. You might be "larger," but your build is fit and athletic period. Nice for NY to offer a different perspective.

                  My cousin and I are the only two in our extended family who aren't heavy and who exercise regularly. Family reunions are weird and also affirming for us.


                    Sharmali ArumugathasanSharmali ArumugathasanKenzai Member
                    Traineralmost 5 years ago

                    Fab post. The most important thing is to be confident in your own skin and trust how it's working for you.


                      Nate Belle IsleNate Belle IsleKenzai Member
                      Traineralmost 5 years ago

                      Great post Kim. Thanks for sharing with us. It's so weird how people (especially family sometimes) push their expectations of what your meat-suit should look like on to you, and it's not even theirs! It's a strange thing that I will never truly understand.

                      You are doing great. Keep it up! I think we could all do with a little bit of getting better at understanding our own bodies and strengths and weaknesses.


                        Tahera Z.Tahera Z.Kenzai Member
                        almost 5 years ago

                        An insightful blog, Kim! Next time I get into tunnel vision, I'll remember the keyword - PERSPECTIVE. 😊


                          George B.George B.Kenzai Member
                          almost 5 years ago

                          Great post! I think you look terrific and strong. But yes, it is not easy to keep perspective about how you look! Ideally, it should be irrelevant, and we should focus on how we feel - which requires no comparison with others.


                            Kelly H.Kelly H.Kenzai Member
                            almost 5 years ago

                            So true and so interesting! Thanks for the reminder!


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