Ren Kuroda

Ren Kuroda

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Tweening already?

  • Mar 1st, 2019 at 4:13PM

So...daughter is 12 and already channeling her inner teen. She will graduate from elementary school and start junior high April 1.

Her expectations:
* contact lenses
* new iPhone with cellular contract
* more allowance
* later bed-time
* her own "room" (aka space in the shared bedroom that is hers exclusively, as blocked off by a movable closet)

Mom's expectations:
* wake , get ready, out the door, and to school on time, every day
* do all homework
* wash, hang/dry, fold, and put in closet own laundry
* go to extra-curricular activities on time
* don't lie
* go to bed at a reasonable time
* be generally useful in the house, especially with your three brothers

Daughter's assessment: 90% compliance
Wife' assessment: 10% compliance

Closing this gap in understanding/performance is a challenge, and one in which I am utterly unwilling to participate.
Like the 3 other boys, I stand by the sidelines, head down eyes front.

I confronted daughter once (on wife's request) and explained to her (again) the Only Two Rules in our house:
1. Do your job.
2. Treat people the way you want to be treated.

The corollary to #1 is "you do your job, I do mine." In other words, if you cannot bother to do your laundry and go to school on time, I cannot bother to buy you an iPhone.
The implication of #2 is, you CAN choose to act like a bitch because you think everyone else treats you badly...or you can take ownership of your own attitude, and approach every conversation with tact, humility, decorum, and politeness. Even when they do not.

Luckily (for me) and sadly (for her), I have a crystal ball:
Daught was late to school this morning (stayed up late screwing around on her phone, didn't leave the house until 8:25 and was in no particular rush, and I know this because wife texted me as much.) and so, her dreams of a new iPhone means that I will buy a new iPhone 8s...and replace my current phone with it, since she sure as hell isn't getting it!

If having a teenage daughter means she is going to get WORSE, I need to start drinking more. ALOT. More.

 
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5 comments

Jason F.Jason F.Kenzai Kettlebell | Day 39 (Member)
5 months ago

Cool story bro. Just like on PCP, you are the pioneer, my Jedi Master, blazing the trail, so I know exactly what NOT to do. Here 2 things you need to do: buy ME an iPhone X (8? come on bro) and start drinking chuhais > 1.5% ABV (7% MINIMUM. BRO!).


    Janet L.Janet L.Kenzai Member
    5 months ago

    Sorry, I can't offer any advice...I just had boys, and they were pretty easy (though I suppose I outsourced high school to boarding school). Enjoy the Chuhais!


      Robin K.Robin K.Kenzai Member
      5 months ago

      All I could read here was iPhone 8...........what Ren? Do they even sell them anymore.
      I have teenage boys - junior of which will be the subject of a future blog once I have a positive lesson learned.......


        Scott H.Scott H.Kenzai Chisel | Day 39 (Member)
        5 months ago

        Spoiler Alert...it does get worse. My daughter was 12 in 2002 and the iPhone had not yet been introduced so I managed to avoid that for a few more years. Yahoo Instant Messenger and "You've Got Mail" is what I was dealing with. Nevertheless, I was invisible for at least 4 years beginning at age 12 --- our most productive conversations were either on IM (and we were both in the house!) or when I drove her to gymnastics workout. I just kept telling her, "I'm doing my job" ... be patient. She is my greatest accomplishment.

        By the way, a $1000 investment in Apple in 2002 would today be worth over $100,000. Buy her the iPhoneX and make a $1000 investment as soon as possible for her University education.


          Watson J.Watson J.Kenzai Member
          5 months ago

          Go Team Go!

          and then it gets better


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