Ward Willis

Ward Willis

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Always Reaching 

  • Mar 12th, 2017 at 8:55PM

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I'm weary as I hit the keyboard this am. Our household was up promptly at 300am. Travel day.

I put my beloved (https://kenzai.me/belinda/blog) on a plane to DC. She's rubbing elbows with some politicos down there this week. As I type this she is likely watching a bad movie in flight. This is her pre-game routine.

Yesterday, she and I got sneaky and completed our Reaching Training a day early by squeezing the flexibility assessment in following the Day 55 workout.

Reach is intimate. Breath. Body. Stillness. In my case, gas.

Due to time and spatial constraints, we were largely forced into practicing together. Same space. Same time. Just a few feet apart. She on her stretchy yoga mat and me opting for the added challenge and cushioning of the rug. I like to think that if circumstances were different, if we had more house, if our son had remained at college this semester, if we didn't work constantly, we'd have made the choice to do Reach like this.

But I'm not sure. This training cycle was different. It was an island. A place for us to connect. We'd laugh. Stretch. Grow quiet. Peek at each other. And work hard to stay out of each other's way, except when we didn't.

To find love at any point in one's life is a gift. To find nourishing love is something even more profound. Love can get stuck. It can become perverted. A bond can become a shackle.

I believe we've always kept an eye on our union being, to quote Kahlil Gibran, a moving sea between the shores of our souls. Ambitious and woo woo, perhaps. But largely true. Scary at times. But true. We grow and change and then work like hell to find common ground.

Reach has been a part of that.

Am I more flexible now? Yes. Did I get the diet right everyday? No. Do I miss the hell out of playing basketball 4 times a week? Yes. Was I inspired and engaged by the lessons, community, and workouts? Hell yes! But mostly, I'm just really grateful to have had this time with my partner.

Song of the Day: How Deep is Your Love by MF'ing Brother's Gibb https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpqqjU7u5Yc

 
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24 comments

Elissa ImranElissa ImranKenzai Mind | Day 7 (Member)
Trainerover 2 years ago

Tough on the court, sensitive in the home, and a combination of both on the blogs!


    Sara PittmanSara PittmanKenzai Chisel | Day 7 (Member)
    Assistant Trainerover 2 years ago

    Aww - congrats to you both and super reaching WW


      Amit H.Amit H.Kenzai Member
      over 2 years ago

      Congrats on finishing reach Captain!


        Megan D.Megan D.Alumni
        over 2 years ago

        Now this was powerful
        LOVE to you in abundance
        Thanks so much for being able to share yourself with so many and still stay true to yourself and your family.


          Kim MurchKim MurchKenzai Reach | Day 35 (Member)
          Trainerover 2 years ago

          Oh Ward, this blog brought a tear to my eye. Belinda is a lucky woman to have someone like you express his love so eloquently in a public space. And you are lucky to have her. You Reach-ed fantastically over the last 8 weeks--not even house renovations could keep you guys down. Back to the bball court now, flexier than ever! Well done!


            Matt BerlinMatt BerlinKenzai Run | Graduating (Member)
            Trainerover 2 years ago

            You get so much more out of each program than just the basic goals of it!!! Always awesome to see.


              Ameya K.Ameya K.Kenzai Chisel | Day 7 (Member)
              over 2 years ago

              Love this blog Ward - profound, as the conclusion of a Reach program should be. Congratulations on completing Reach.

              Cheers,
              A.


                Scott H.Scott H.Kenzai Chisel | Day 7 (Member)
                over 2 years ago

                Well said and well done.


                  Liz B.Liz B.Kenzai Member
                  over 2 years ago

                  beautiful and fun to be witness to that amazing union on the regular.


                    Jess SwarbreckJess SwarbreckKenzai Member
                    Trainerover 2 years ago

                    Wow, love this ❤️❤️❤️


                      Janet L.Janet L.Kenzai Member
                      over 2 years ago

                      What a lovely post! I totally see how wonderful it was to do the program with your partner - it really lends itself to loving communication in silence. Enjoy getting back to the hoops, but perhaps find some time together stretching...


                        Jenn R.Jenn R.Kenzai Body | Day 77 (Member)
                        over 2 years ago

                        Lovely. It's wonderful to have such a partner.


                          Robin K.Robin K.Kenzai Member
                          over 2 years ago

                          That's beautiful WW - got a bit of dust in my eye after reading that.


                            Claire L.Claire L.Kenzai Member
                            over 2 years ago

                            How lovely. You have taken what you needed from the programme & multiplied it by X. And such a bonus to have shared the moments with your significant other. Joy!


                              Cecilia A.Cecilia A.Kenzai Member
                              Trainerover 2 years ago

                              Gorgeous sentiment friend. Truly inspiring on all fronts, Reach & Relationship alike. Both will need our continued attention and intention but if we put in the work and focus, it'll feel like we can levitate.


                                Naiem Q.Naiem Q.Kenzai Member
                                over 2 years ago

                                Congratulations Ward, great post.


                                  Sharmali ArumugathasanSharmali ArumugathasanKenzai Member
                                  Trainerover 2 years ago

                                  Aw shucks Wardo, this is too lovely. Our Kenzai bard waxing lyrical to his first lady. Who cares about grad posts and flexibility assessments when we got this love story going on? Written beautifully to perfection.


                                    Ward WillisWard WillisKenzai Member
                                    Head Trainerover 2 years ago

                                    @All - Thanks for affirming that this is a place where a weirdo can act silly, strange, and/or sensitive. Peace.


                                      Nate Belle IsleNate Belle IsleKenzai Kettlebell 2 | Day 21 (Member)
                                      Trainerover 2 years ago

                                      Awesome stuff bro! Much love to you and Belinda and the boys.


                                        Belinda R.Belinda R.Kenzai Member
                                        about 2 years ago

                                        Tears in my eyes, baby. I'm a lucky lady.


                                          Leah GallieLeah GallieKenzai Member
                                          Assistant Trainerabout 2 years ago

                                          Aw so special Ward! Congrats on the graduation and you can literally now reach Belinda anywhere in your house ha


                                            Lizzie G.Lizzie G.Just became a Kenzai Member!
                                            about 2 years ago

                                            For what it's worth, I think it's the silly, strange, and/or sensitive weirdos that make this space such a rewarding one. Those inches gained on your forward bend are impressive! Thank you for being such a great Reach trainer.


                                              John M.John M.Kenzai Member
                                              about 2 years ago

                                              Ward, I am reading this eleven days after you posted it. (I was waiting to read other graduation posts until I had posted my own.) It's a very poignant blog. I loved reading it.


                                                Diana D.Diana D.Kenzai Member
                                                about 2 years ago

                                                This was lovely


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